So, you’re contemplating family therapy. Part of that step is doing the cha-cha with your heart and scream ‘Oh no, not more talking’ with your mind. Family therapy is not that sittin’ on the couch, head clickin’ from a martini glass sippin’ serious somethin’, nodgin’ sxxd, ‘rrkhyh neajeetl… This is our can’t believe what we are seeing in movies humans are doing the day to day, trying to figure stuff out mundane. Read more now on Marriage and family therapist
Two pictures: Dad sets the thermostat to 65 degrees, Mom is making a pillow fortress, Arctic cold. Little Timmy never listens to anything but techno music and drives Sally up the wall. No surprise family therapy isn’t a last football restraint. It’s ok to give a bit of time to every day quibbles sometimes.
Family therapy is very spirited and in this world of family therapy, there are also emotions that you may not have known about, had you not come in or emotions that you knew existed or you knew you had, but didn’t know that there were. I picked up an old box that was balled up, something they used to put things in before everyone had computers. You’ve got feelings! The fact is, that’s what family therapy is: All those wonderful and exasperating quirks (and the same pie-eating habits) that make your gang tick (or argue over that last slice of chocolate cake).
You may not wear capes, but you are a therapy secret weapon you should consider using. A family therapist is like a guide through the thick jungle of mixed signals, hurt feelings and sizzling tempers. All of them are pointed the way of the therapist to understanding, and she steer us with the question: ‘Do you remember when you called your brother a banana? Let’s decode that fruity metaphor.’
Take it from Aunt Marge. She swore all that it would take to cope with her clan’s passionate dinner table debates would be some new hobby she was sure to start. Through family therapy, they were in agreement. And now, when Marge does stop brooding on macramé not because she’s looking for an escape but as a result of learning crafts as a refreshing way to pass time, I wonder how that makes her feel.
But your new side is patience, humor, and a little bit of empathy. Just as the jazz music is sometimes chaotic and sometimes harmonious, this journey to be beautiful is so. The action is in singing the rhythm, and knowing that sometimes, we’ll hit a sour note. Maybe the techno beats will become a shared techno dance party, and maybe the thermostat wars will fizzle out as we learn to listen. Nobody thought that group therapy would be the ideal spot to equally hand out the last piece of cake so eloquently.
More than anything, families are a love and maverick energy blend, and that includes us. Guess what? There’s no one-size-fits-all. The stories of each family are different. I mean, just makes it easier to narrate it a little bit better.